We honor AAPI Heritage & Mental Health month every year by going through ”Transcend The Tiger” together. This was custom made with love & care for all children of “Tiger Parents” (or other high-pressure upbringings) to reconnect with their unconditional wholeness.
IS THIS FOR YOU?
Dear one, have you struggled your whole life to feel ENOUGH or at PEACE?
If it feels like no matter what you do, you’re always drowning, in stress, your to-do list, managing other people’s feelings or expectations, chasing the next goal, or numbing out…
You’re hard on yourself, can’t seem to shut off that critic in your head, or feel like a failure of a son or daughter to your family…
I invite you to pause. Breathe. And imagine a life where it doesn’t have to be this way.
Imagine you could carry an unshakeable peace & worthiness within you.
Of knowing EXACTLY WHO THE **** YOU ARE, your value, your worth, what only you can bring to this world. Creating unconditional joy wherever you go.
Imagine you could love your family, no matter what happened in the past. You do not pass on cycles of mistreatment, harm, back to them or your future loved ones.
You’ve acknowledged, processed your pain, grief, for the childhood you deserved but never got, and learned to create your best life NOW, a magical heaven on earth where every day just keeps getting better and better.
You are filled with love, gratitude, & so much compassion for your family, rather than any more anger, grief, bitterness, or resentment. Even if they still don’t see, hear, meet, or treat you well, you hold to YOUR highest path in treating everyone with kindness, respect, and honor.
You find you actually have TIME & ENERGY to honor your secret dreams & longings, without all the mental gunk & chatter getting in your way draining you.
You are deeply connected with yourself, trust your intuition, make decisions easefully & courageously. It’s not that fear is gone; you’ve strengthened your muscles to feel it & do it anyway.
You have transcended the limitations your ancestors carried & passed down (well-meaning to keep you safe) and RISE as your most radiant, FULLY EXPRESSED self.
This is honoring your lineage, and honoring everyone and their sacrifices. Your ancestors were victims too of the Ancestral Tiger.
You were not meant to be another slave to the hamster wheel of chasing enoughness & answers out there. You were meant for so much more.
You are the first one strong enough in your lineage to break generational cycles & curses. You were meant to Transcend the ancestral Tiger.
You already have everything within you, to live your best life possible, carry out what others could not. YOU are what your ancestors have been praying for.
With the right support, we can get you there, so you can start to fully enjoy, appreciate, and LIVE your one precious, magical life.
This isn’t a program that makes exaggerated promises; it won’t be easy or fast (although it could be!), but it will be fulfilling. You won’t have everything you ever dreamed of (at least not all at once), but you’ll have something even more valuable – the ability & quiet strength to handle ANYTHING & create ANYTHING.
This is a portal for creation, and you’ll join a lifelong community who will empower, support, & mentor you every step of the way.
JOIN US HERE!
Questions or want to explore if this is a good fit for you? Book a consultation call HERE.
FAQs:
When will the group session times be?
We will coordinate with students’ schedules to try to accommodate everyone. Recordings available if you can’t make it live.
Is this program only for people who had Tiger Parents?
NO! This program is for anyone who has an Inner Critic, which may have been birthed from any kind of high-pressure upbringings, personality tendencies, or interactions with peers or media. The lessons on healing relationships with parents may be applied to any difficult relationship in your life.
Any restrictions?
No, this program is open to ALL ages, genders, sexes, orientations, ethnicities, & backgrounds. We love to learn from and celebrate diversity. But the community will be carefully moderated to ensure safety & sacredness of the space. There is ZERO tolerance for disrespect or unkindness.
How much of a time commitment?
About 1-2 hours/week. You are welcome to take what resonates and leave the rest.
What IS coaching?
Coaching is a combination of holding a loving, safe space, deep listening, and powerful questioning to help someone arrive at insights customized to them. My style blends coaching & consulting. If you’ve never worked with me before, I’m happy to gift you a 30-min sample session for an $8 coffee at Ko-fi.com (book your session HERE).
How is coaching different from therapy?
While there is a lot of overlap nowadays, coaching is more concrete, actionable, & future-oriented. Both are ways to aid healing & create a better quality life. This program is a good supplement to therapy, especially the highly specialized group mirroring factor & use of other integrative holistic practices such as art therapy, meditation, and subconscious work.
What will the session structure be like?
See program details section below on how each 60-minute session will be spent. There will be some influences from Buddhist principles (you can read a sample here), but all beliefs are welcome. We create as safe, inclusive & conscious of a space as we can.
Is there a refund policy?
Yes! If you are not finding the program beneficial within 30 days, you are welcome to submit feedback & completed lesson work and receive a full refund (minus processing fees). Quality, satisfaction, and fit are very important to me. Everyone’s healing journey is different, and I’m happy to refer you to others if we are not a good fit.
WHY WORK WITH DR. TONI?
As a Chinese-American misfit (overweight, nerdy, LGBT+ & neurodivergent HSP Highly Sensitive Person, ADHD & OCD), with a level A+++ Tiger Mom who STILL calls me a “loser” & “failure” to this day…
I always struggled with a sense of belonging and FINALLY found home within myself, after a 20-year healing journey.
After my rock bottom moment while skydiving, I realized medicine wasn’t right for me; I had completely broken down trying to please my immigrant Tiger Parent family, which birthed the Acceptsians movement.
I had always lived for others, not thinking I was worthy of taking up space or being loved, unless I Achieved enough milestones to finally be “good enough.”
In piecing myself back together, I learned to root into inner love, safety, unconditional worth, and belonging. It made ALL the difference for my life, in every single area. And I had to unlearn a lot of my conditionings influenced by capitalism, colonization, racism, and sexism.
So now I empower, educate, and advocate for the oppressed and different, especially those from shame-filled upbringings. I help walk them home to see that they do and have ALWAYS belonged.
As an ex-gynecologist now nomadic cartoonist, author, speaker, sex educator, self-love & relationship coach & mental health advocate, I’ve expanded beyond all boxes and carved my own authentic path that feels true to my soul’s fullest expression.
Life isn’t easy, but it feels joyful, peaceful, & RIGHT. In healing my own inner Tiger, I’ve improved my relationship with my parents and our entire lineage as well.
I’m now here to spend the rest of my life guiding others back to their truth, through my art, writing, classes, or working directly together.
The truth that we ALL belong here, no matter what we do or don’t do. We have a unique contribution only we can make to this beautiful Universe.
We don’t have to hide, twist, or change ourselves to be loved or “successful.” Your true self is ENOUGH.
And you will naturally excel & achieve great things once you find who you are; you don’t need to struggle or chase; your greatness will just shine through.
I’m so glad we crossed paths. Hope my work can touch your heart & bring you comfort & peace, even if we never meet live.
PROGRAM DETAILS:
LIVE Group Program starts July 15 (private VIP 1:1 & self-study options also available)
Space is limited to 8 spots to ensure an intimate group
- Weekly lesson via PDF, audio or video
- Weekly 60 minute group sessions x12 weeks
- Unlimited 1:1 messaging support with reply in 48 business hours
- Private community group (Slack or Whatsapp)
- Portal of resources for in-between session integration (videos, workbooks, activities, readings)
- Lifelong membership in the TTT family’s monthly sessions & community!
Session structure & components:
- Group grounding & bonding exercises
- Authentic sharings, celebrations & intentions
- Coaching & Q&A about the lessons
- Suggested theme / Tiger Parent phrase for exploration & processing (“Be a good girl / boy!” “Don’t cry!!” “Act your age!” “Respect your elders!” “Why not A+?!” “You sure no premed??” “No dating!! But why you not married yet?!” )
- Accountability buddy matching
- Optional role play with a difficult relationship
- Meditations & guided somatic practices
Bonuses: PDF bundle of Dr. Toni’s top resources, All-Access pass to events, 1:1 private integration session, art therapy “Success Sketch,” Tiger playlist, custom guided meditation, dance classes, in-person celebration retreat, + more!
Tuition $1111 (or $400/month)
Previous Workshop Attendee Discount (apply code at checkout): $888 (or $250/month)
10% donated to child & animal centers, or a charity of your choice!
Option to add a 1:1 coaching package at a special rate of $888 for 4 sessions.
Partial scholarships & extended payment plans available for students & low-income countries. 1:1 support, hybrid, & self-paced options ($88+) can be discussed to suit your needs. Book a consultation HERE to inquire.
I believe finances should never be the only barrier for anyone. I’m committed to offering my work on a partial gift economy, building towards a full one, to be accessible to all.
(Want a preview of this program, or to learn more about my work and missions? Check out my book memoir & healing guide: “WHY YOU NO DOCTOR ANYMORE?! Honoring Your Family AND Yourself Too.” and sample chapter in a podcast episode on Healing Family Relationships.
More client testimonials HERE.
Questions? Want to explore if this is a good fit or the right next step for you? Or inquire about financial aid? Book a consultation call with Dr. Toni HERE.
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