Summary: My Standup Comedy on Dating & Feminism as an Asian & Nomad
| I just did my 3rd time ever of standup comedy… unintentionally synced up with Women’s Day! This goes out to all the women out there who were told all they have to offer are their “Century Old Eggs”! Link here: Dating as an Asian & Nomad: https://youtu.be/Daw0Hni1JvA?si=nZDIvZZ5UCqADcWL And my first ever was on why I quit being a doctor: https://youtu.be/Ockn3qNDXhA?si=5HYv_a4rWn1aZIQE I never thought I’d be doing this more than once as a bucket list challenge, but it has been so much fun!! I hardly recognize myself, from the extremely shy, quiet nerd who doodled in the corner and had too much anxiety to talk to people. Not gonna lie, she’s still here!! and comes out in certain social settings (I hate unstructured bar minglings!! Anyone else?!) But when she has an important mission to share or stand behind, a version of me comes out I still am surprised by and wish could keep around all the time.  I also co-led a women’s circle of the most we’ve ever had in person, nearly 30!! And then felt a huge crash the day after. I’m still learning to be gentle, kind, and attuned with myself. I tend to do so much excitedly… I overextend and then crash. But also some days there is still this heaviness… there have been a lot of shedding and shifts in relationships, unexpected changes, though I know they’re for the highest good. And even when life is going so well, there doesn’t need to be a particular reason to feel down. I can just feel down, just because. I am allowed to be human, in my cycles. |
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| Something for you to think about or try this month: In line with my personal growth challenge PDF Marvelous March, how can you bring more wonder and awe into your life? Remembering the joy & miracle of being not only alive, but being exactly you? Join my email list to get it for free! Our women’s circle shared so much, from how there is extreme mom guilt that we’re not doing enough, (when if we were simply a man we’d be applauded for just the bare minimum!!) To how we give away so much of ourselves to everyone else when we’re really yearning for the that kind of love towards us. It is not “noble” to sacrifice everything and drain your well dry. I share more on generosity, self-sacrifice, and Asian family expectations in my recent private Substack post inspired by a 9-day long first date I had with another Asian nomad! We expect women to be Super Wonder Women, juggle all the roles, carry all the plates, AND look flawless and graceful every step of the way. Here’s to dismantling such unrealistic standards rooted in patriarchy, misogyny & oppression!!! You are doing ENOUGH, just as you are. In fact, MORE than enough. When you’re spiraling, just ask… “If I were a man, how would how I’m thinking and feeling about myself change?!” As always, I’m here in your corner if you’d like any support (with options for any budget). Comment or email me at DrTooni@Mail.com |
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