Summary: Lunar New Year reflections on shedding, and the surprising psychology of loss & gain
| Happy 2026! This is supposedly the ending of a 9-year cycle, with Year of the Snake shedding leading into the Fire Horse, energetically, and while I still hold a little skepticism about such things, I’ve felt it. 2025 was my biggest year of growth yet, like I felt I finally crossed some threshold for self-worth, like breaking through the surface of a really deep ocean to finally taste air, and can never go back. Like all the work I did finally paid off in some real, tangible way I could feel, without question. I feel like I was able to find true security within myself & my nervous system, and so many fears just dropped away, not completely, but to a manageable level that they didn’t get in the way of me doing things and taking action anymore. And I wish that for you too. If my free blog post or podcast episodes about my raw reflections and realizations might help, here are the links. I also found this AMAZING conscious community in the Philippines near Manila with a barter system where you can come, reset & recover from burnout, and find what you really want to do with your life without financial pressures, in an unconditionally loving, safe community, until you can get back on your feet! It was what I have been trying to build since starting the Acceptsians community & movement in 2019!! Having such a home is just INDESCRIBABLE. This level of safety net that we all deserve, but many of us do not get, even from our own families. It really enabled me to take more risks, do more things, with detachment from the outcome, a steadiness that any result will always be a great learning experience. You just have to get yourself here, and we’ll take care of the rest! Hoping we can expand such systems to all continents one day!! Just comment on this post or email DrTooni@Mail.com to get more info about this incredible resource!! (that’s me by their cleansing well water pool!!) |
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| This month’s updates: I’ve shifted to doing more in-person offerings as I’ve settled into Asia, knowing I want to make 1-3 home bases here. It has felt great committing to something as my sense of self has deepened, although if I find a tribe to nomad with, I would gladly still do so! I’m so grateful to have just done a 3-week intensive on Body Literacy, Self-Empowerment, and hit my highest income month yet ever!!!! And to be doing so much for the local community with Art classes, Mandarin, Latin Dance & pickleball classes, doing another standup comedy on Asian culture for LNY, and hosting a Valentine’s Month Authentic Relating Speed Dating & Friending event at Happiness Hostel! I’m truly able to see the gifts I have and how I can serve in so many ways. I even randomly won medals with cash at my first ever pickleball tournament!! Life truly is wild!! And so much can happen all at once when you clear abundance blockages :O (The guilt of having more privilege than others simply for winning the Ovarian Lottery being a sneaky one! Can you relate?) |
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| Something for you to think about or try this month: What do you think is/are your biggest blockage(s) right now? In what areas specifically of your life (even though they are all interconnected)? Is it in relating, as it’s Love Month? Or in financial abundance? Or your health? Is there anything you know you are clinging a bit too tightly to out of fear of loss or change? Imagine shedding those stuck pieces of you. What does the new, fresh version of you do differently? How does he/she move through the world? Think? Speak? Act? Feel? Trust that what isn’t right for you will fall away for the highest good. It’s ok to shed, to have some losses. Don’t be so afraid of losing that you forget to play to win. Did you know that humans are wired for negative events and losses to affect us 2-5x more than gains & positive ones!?! We would rather NOT lose $100 than potentially gain $100. It would take a gain of at least $200 to “feel” equivalent to a $100 loss. Knowing this about our biology and psychology allows us greater compassion, understanding, and internal security. Losses can be good. Gains can be bad. It’s not all black and white. I think that’s the biggest lesson and message I am getting from this particular Lunar New Year transition. And losses can make space and pave the way for something new, or for renewal and/or deepening of something old. Trust the cycles, the messy process. You will be OK no matter what. As always, I’m here in your corner if you’d like any support (with options for any budget). Comment or email me at DrTooni@Mail.com |
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