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Summary: We as humans all need connection and support, especially if we are taking a road less traveled!

In my journey to figure out how to live nomadically all over the world, and support myself outside of medicine, I realized it was essentially entrepreneurship I was tackling.

I had never wanted to start my own business. I never considered myself having any “business sense” or “business mindset.”

I hadn’t realized that businesses are a way to fully express our unique gifts to the world, and I would have inevitably ended up here.

It’s definitely a road less taken, and so few people understand it. Almost all my loved ones call me “crazy” and “too idealistic.”

They keep citing how most businesses and creatives fail, and that they need “real” jobs to sustain them.

It’s been really lonely, but I still plugged away tirelessly.

Until one day I hit a wall of fatigue and hopelessness.

Being self-employed is HARD. You have no set schedule or plan, so you have to create them for yourself.

When you’re your own boss, it’s so easy to get distracted and slack off.

No one is holding you accountable except for you. No one will know what you did and didn’t do. You create your own progress and milestones.

There’s no set path, so you don’t even know if what you’re doing will pay off or if it’s just a waste of time and energy.

It’s risky, uncertain, and so scary. Completely a shock to a risk-averse person like me.

It’s also been really hard learning business tools that go against my natural tendencies, such as marketing and sales.

I realized in some ways maybe I was being too idealistic thinking I could just sharpen and express my skills, and money would just magically follow.

In today’s world, you can’t just produce great work; it’s just as, if not more important, to let people know that your work even exists in the first place.

But to me, it felt so icky and self-promotional. I had never been one to call attention to my work. In fact, I spent many years doing the opposite, as per my Asian culture — downplaying my strengths and hiding my talents.

It’s been such a roller-coaster of a ride.

But there are ways we can fight this!!

I found that working with Accountability Partners/Groups and even just announcing publicly what I wanted to do helped a LOT.

Suddenly I wasn’t alone anymore, and I had no idea how much of a difference that made!!

Even though this support was all virtual, I’ve made some incredibly close connections with other like-minded, inspiring people.

Seeing them work on their dreams refuels me to work on mine!

It didn’t matter that my current network of family/friends didn’t understand. They might not ever understand, even if I became massively successful.

We can’t change the PEOPLE around us. But we CAN change the people AROUND us!!

We can choose whom we surround ourselves with and whom we spend our precious time and energy with.

If we can’t physically set boundaries and leave someone’s negative, pessimistic, or toxic presence, we can set mental boundaries and limit our interactions with them.

We become more like the people we interact with. We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time and energy with.

It is so SO important to find people who are truly supportive of us and the directions we are trying to go.

If you’re interested in joining our Acceptsians Community’s Accountability system or 1 on 1 Coaching, contact me here!

We’re here for you!! We will support your dreams, no matter what they are!! Or how “crazy” they seem.

If your current support network can’t understand, know that there are people in this world who do!!

We are no longer limited by where we live, thanks to the beauty and power of technology.

It is NOW more possible than ever to create the life of our dreams.

So don’t give up on or downplay that voice inside you! That’s calling you to do something. Listen to it, nourish it, and explore it.

Share them with us in the comments below or in our Acceptsians community!



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Hi! I'm Dr. Toni, a carTOONIst. I empower, educate and advocate for women and minorities through my art and coaching, while traveling nomadically. I help others also follow our hearts and live true to themselves, no matter what others say!
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